Listen as Dr Kishi who is an advocate of the SEJ Process, shares her experience as a stressed parent. I’ll come clean: I’ve been that parent who shouted at my kids. Not doing their homework, forgetting their PE kit, leaving their room a mess, playing games late into the night—the list goes on. One day, I was so incensed (I can’t even recall what triggered it) that I put myself in the porch because I was afraid I might lash out physically. I could hear my two children sobbing

Listen to Dr Kishi, a Senior Lecturer at Kingston University, explain how her approach to communicating with her students has changed after practicing the SEJ Process. I used to believe I was a good lecturer—someone who could manage and control a classroom with confidence. As a university educator, I often teach classes of up to 100 students, and I thought authority meant being strict. One day, a colleague casually mentioned that students referred to me as “Scary Dr Kishi.”

"Every time we shout at a child they lose a bit of themselves" Parents often raise their voices in moments of frustration or stress, but what happens to children when this becomes a frequent pattern? Shouting may seem like a quick way to grab attention or enforce rules, yet its impact on children’s emotional and mental health can be profound and lasting. Understanding these effects helps caregivers choose more supportive ways to communicate and nurture their children’s growth